If you are reading this article, it has probably happened to you. You went for a job interview and one way or the other you ended up crying your eyes out. Being overwhelmed with positive emotion is not necessarily a bad thing. However, crying during a job interview is by most hiring managers and employers considered as a ‘lack of control’. Crying is, therefore, a big no-no for some hiring managers, which of course spoils your chances of landing the job.
Even though this embarrassing moment can seem like the end of the world, the fact that you ended up crying whether during or after the job interview might even be a sign. If you are naturally an emotional person, this is definitely something you would have to work on. For example, get to know what triggers you or maybe even try to seek help from a career coach. However, the important thing to remember is that people do not just cry for any reason.
When it’s not related to anger or sadness, we also tend to cry when we’re in a stressful or anxious situation. So in relation to the job interview, there are probably three main reasons why you ended up crying:
1) You Were Nervous
Some are better than others when it comes to hiding their nerves. However, getting nervous right before or during an interview is absolutely normal. The good news is, it happens to everyone! The important thing is that you are not overcome by it. I mean, it can feel quite nerve-wracking and stressful when you’re sitting across a desk with 2 or 3 people firing questions and staring at you.
What tends to help me is that I remind myself that the job interview is not only for me to prove that I am a perfect fit, the company needs to be a perfect fit for me too. It is a great opportunity to observe your potential manager and work-environment. Additionally, doing some stress-releasing exercises before the interview might help calm your nerves too.
2) You Were Not Prepared
Sometimes you can walk into a job interview not necessarily feeling nervous. However, based on the questions you were asked, you quickly realise you might have been unprepared. Unfortunately, you can’t fully anticipate all the possible job interview questions, but that’s even something you need to prepare for. You might not have the ‘perfect’ answer for everything, but the best you can do is to be yourself – and that sometimes might help to take the pressure off you.
Let’s not forget though, that having a ‘black-out’ is a real thing too. The worst you can do at that point is to just ramble on. Again, the best thing you can do is to just be honest.
3) You Felt Intimidated
Believe it or not, there are some instances where hiring managers or employers can make unpolite or inappropriate comments. Also, some employers can intentionally use intimidating interview techniques. So, even though you’re at a job interview, the whole conversation feels like a test.
Also, if you are eager to work at a certain company but during the interview, the hiring managers only keep talking about how great the company is and how lucky you would be if they hired you… that too can be extremely disappointing and feel quite intimidating too.
So What’s Next?
Honestly, this fully depends on you. Assess the situation and reflect on how you thought the interview went. If you left the job interview feeling humiliated and worse than before you walked in, that company might maybe not be the right place anyway. However, if the overall conversation went well, a few tears here and there might not necessarily be a deal-breaker.
Just like with any other interview, you might want to follow-up after the job interview. And you don’t have to feel embarrassed about it. Feel free to send an e-mail to the hiring manager thanking them for taking the time to meet you.